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slumdog millionnaire and many more questions

March 30, 2009
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Finally watched SM over the weekend! Being an Oscar winner, I expected it to have shades of true blue depression and honesty. It lived up to its reputation. As a film, I don’t think that its too great. There are better movies that could have won the Oscar. The Oscars are always fascinated by war movies for WW-I and WW-II or movies that depict the underbelly of developing countries. Movies like Lagaan, Swaash or Taare Zameen Par are too positive for the Oscars. I have seen far better movies.

Overall, a good film. It is so scary to see what real life is in Mumbai, outside of the cosy lives we lead. I used to accompany my mom to the Shelter Don Bosco when I was young to interact with the street children. They were all so innocent and vulnerable, yet so street smart. It has to take a lot of courage or a really bad life back home to run away and live on the streets. These street children are the window into our society. Our society is only as good as how it treats the under-privileged and needy.

Its hard to identify who the real needy ones are, the beggars who are blind, the ones with crying little kids, or the ones who just pester you too much? How do you try to distribute the wealth? Who are the real beneficiaries? Will it ever stop? Just because it won’t stop, should we not try to fix it?


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Visitors and Buddu goes to Chicago

March 26, 2009
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Buddu’s aunt(NS) and her fiance(AD) visited us over the weekend. AD being the first non-dad male the munchkin saw promptly evoked a tear response. She puckered up and turned all red in her face. It took her some time to make her peace with him. All in all, she went back and forth all day with AD with tears and laughter evenly mixed in.


Sunday saw us up bright and early – considering we have a 3 month old at home – and on our way to Chicago The munchkin behaved very well and slept through her journey to and from Chicago We went to the Indian street in Chicago and did the customary round of chaat and Indian junk food consumption. The munchkin soaked it all in and even almost made a few friends.


 KK pensiveWe wanted to get her ears pierced the Indian way – with a thin gold wire. But none of the jewellers in Chicago do it due to the liabilities. Everyone uses a ear-ring gun to get it done. We decided to wait and get it done by the doctor at her 6 month vaccination visit. We will try to get it done sooner so that she doesn’t pull at them.

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Buddu and her bottle escapades

March 20, 2009
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We have been trying to train the munchkin to drink milk from the bottle. We will start her in daycare by mid-April when she has finished 2 rounds of shots. She doesn’t, absolutely doesn’t, like her bottle. My mom tries to distract her by singing to her (trust me, her singing will distract you 😉 ) but she doesn’t like it.

We have tried 3 types of bottles and I am running out of options. Lets hope she develops a liking to atleast one of them.

Edited to add: She finally seems to like Dr. Brown’s bottles. We will wait and watch to see what happens today. Wish us luck!

Edited to add again: Yes, Dr Brown’s bottles worked!! Yippee!! One less thing to worry about at daycare.

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Having a baby …

March 18, 2009
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makes a singer out of all of us!

Its fun to watch my mom, my husband and me attempt to sing hindi film songs while rocking  Buddu to sleep. its the most random song with missing lyrics sung out of tune. I love it!

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Never shake a baby…

March 13, 2009

Shaken baby syndrome is a term I heard only after I came to the US. In India, we handle babies ever so gently. We hold them close, swaddle them, support their neck. It is unimaginable that one would shake their baby so violently that it could die.

When I read news reports of babies dying when shaken so violently, I get sick to the stomach. Especially after little A had come into our life, I am super sensitive of babies being in trouble. It is hard to imagine how one can express such anger and frustration on a child, barely weeks old, in need of complete attention and constant care. Such behavior stems from improper social bonds between individuals. They are incapable of pure unbridled love for any one.

There were times when little A would not stop crying and everything we did failed to soothe her. I would only hold her closer in my attempt to soothe her. At such times you need help in the house. A parent, a caring and loving spouse, a sibling or even a neighbor. US is too hyped up on its privacy to see how a little social bonding can go a long way.

I hope we can do something to stop this !

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the pregnancy tag

March 12, 2009

Aah… i am new here.. i read a lot of blogs, but haven’t been tagged. I guess I will take it upon myself. 🙂

1. Was your first pregnancy planned?


2. Were you married at that time?

Yes, for over 2 years. It’s kind of frowned upon to do such things without being married.

3. What were your reactions?

I was pleasantly shocked! We were back from a horrifying trip to Greece where A lost his passport and was eagerly awaiting the results of his interview for the post of Assistant Professor. That was the last thing on our mind especially since we were just glad to be back home!

4. Was abortion an option for you?

No, never!

5. How old were you?


6. How did you find out you were pregnant?

The double pink line on the pregnancy test.

7. Who did you tell first?

A, of course! Woke him up at 6:30 am!

8. Due date?

December 28, 2008

9. Did you have morning sickness?

No. Thank God!

10. What did you crave?
Nothing special. For a while I craved idlis which made my mom crazy since she couldn’t come and make some for me.

11. What irritated you the most?
the heartburn which started in the fourth month and only let up 2 weeks before lil A was born.

12. What was your first child’s sex?


13. Did you wish for a child of the opposite sex?

I had always wanted a daughter. But I was not hoping too hard for it since I didn’t want to be biased if I ended up having a son. I didn’t want to welcome him with, “Oh, I wish you were a girl”.

14. How many pounds did you gain during pregnancy?

Around 25-30 lbs.

15. Did you have a baby shower?

Yes, a lovely surprise baby shower thrown by my dear friends from work! I was working remotely from home since A had accepted the job offer he was eagerly awaiting. I was called to my office for a week long trip. My girl friends from work made my surprise baby shower really special!

16. was it a surprise or did you know?
Yes, a big surprise!

17. Did you have any complications during pregnancy?
No, none. I was boringly normal 🙂

18. Where did you give birth?

Normal, IL. Yes, there is a town called Normal and we live in it 🙂

19. How many hours were you in labour?

Almost 12 hours, only 1 hour of hard labour.

20. Who drove you to the hospital?

My husband.

21.Who watched you give birth?

My husband and the nurse. I was on the phone with my mom every hour giving her updates. My in-laws were supposed to arrive the next day. They had already boarded the plane to come to US when my labor started and lil A was here hours before they landed. They went from being parents to grandparents in the air 🙂

22. Was it natural or C-section?


23. Did you take medication to ease the pain?
No, I wanted to go natural. I was really fine until the doctor came and broke my water. 45 minutes after that lil A was here!

24. How much did your child weigh?
5 lbs 14 oz. i.e. 2.6 kgs.

25. When was your child actually born?

Dec 15, 2008 at 8:23 am

26. What was your reaction when the doctor announced the sex of your baby?
The doctor said “no balls, its a girl!” It took me a good 10 seconds to process that! I was very happy after that.

27 What was your first reaction on seeing the baby?
I almost cried. But I was just looking at her face trying to find out who she resembled. She resembles my husband so much that she looked like a strange kid to me. Lots of hair though! 😀

28. Did you cry?

Not for a few hours.

28. What did you name him/ her?

29. How old is your first born today?

Look at the ticker at the top of the page 🙂

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buddu’s attempts at communication

March 10, 2009
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Buddu is now almost 3 months old. She seems to change every week! Suddenly one day she started “calling” out to us. AS was standing right in front of her watching TV and she calls out trying to get his attention. She now communicates with us in her own baby talk. I love her voice already! She speaks softly with me and loudly with her dad.

She had her shot yesterday, HiB. She was cranky for some time in the morning but has been sleeping it off mostly.

I started work on Monday and we started introducing her the bottle with my milk. She hasn’t taken to it yet. I feel so bad seeing her cry when she is hungry and is refusing the bottle. Mommy guilt starts to kick in… and I wish I could quit. But I am not the first mother who has worked and I have the luxury of working from home. I plan to make the best of it! KK-on-womens-day

Here is a picture of KK wishing everyone a belated happy women’s day!





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March 10, 2009
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Being an avid internet surfer, I read a lot of blogs. I enjoy reading other people’s points of view and refresh my thoughts in the process. It also seems like a nice chronicle of one’s life. With the arrival of my daughter, I thought this could help me document some of her life and the changes she has made to mine through this.

The usual suspects on this blog will be

AS – my husband
PS – me
buddu, little A or munchkin- my almost 3 month old daughter.

Let’s begin this e-journey.

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